When you were a child and did not know the meaning of a word, what did you do? If you were like most kids, you asked your mom or dad (who ended up looking it up in a dictionary because they were not quite sure how to explain it). Webster’s defines accountability as “an obligation to give satisfactory reason, or an explanation for, one’s actions.” In other words, when accountability exists in a relationship, each person has an obligation to provide justification for every action he or she chooses to display, regardless of the amount of thought (or lack thereof) that went into the action. While we know it inherently, we often ignore the fact that we must frequently give satisfactory reasons for our actions. This definition implies that our actions have implications requiring consideration and evaluation. Even this secular definition suggests the need to ask ourselves if our actions are profitable, selfish, or counterproductive to the good of mankind and God’s Kingdom. This evaluation is part of the process for determining the Kingdom value of our choices, or what is termed as deciding right from wrong. The concept of accountability presupposes a set of absolute standards. As believers, we know that the source of those standards is based upon Kingdom principles.

The dictionary defines intimacy as being “closely acquainted or associated with the inmost character. Having to do with the fundamentals and essentials (or most private parts) of that character.” This definition suggests that only a few others can see and recognize the innermost parts of another person. For example, you may know who George Washington was, but you can bet that his wife, Martha, could have provided you with some stories that might change your perspective about the “real George.” I have often quoted Benjamin Franklin: “Friends should be few and well chosen.” He seemed to understand that along with intimate relationships comes vulnerability. Hence, we see the necessity in choosing friends carefully and prayerfully.

Since we are limited in our wisdom and understanding, we must consider halaking (walking) with a friend who not only shares common Kingdom goals, but is wiser than we are. That mentor relationship will help you identify and broaden your understanding of any personal limitations that might cause you to fall short of your goals. When you combine your insight with that of another, you enhance your ability to develop wisdom, which helps you make better choices. Unfortunately, in our hectic, fast-paced lives, most of us use the excuse that we simply do not have time to develop intimacy with other people. You and I both know that this is just an excuse to avoid a commitment. I have yet to meet an individual who has absolutely no down time during the day. Downtime provides the perfect time for an intimate relationship with the three individuals who are always by your side. There are breaks in time where your Friends, the Father, the Son, or the Spirit, could fill you with just the lift you need. After all, They promised Their way would be one which lightens your burdens, not makes them worse. (Matthew 11:30) Their desire for intimacy originates with Love and Goodness. How can you go wrong with a Friend and Family Member with that objective?

Kids I know this might sound ethereal and/or too conceptual – yet it is reality and the way things work. You must start with prayer with the belief and expectation that Deity will answer those prayers. Just ask. Remember that if you don’t ask you cannot possibly receive. Tomorrow we’ll combine these thoughts.

Love Dad